Everyday Lessons

The other day I was searching on the Internet on sufferring and I found this on buddhanet.net SUFFERING AND SELF-VIEW It is important to reflect upon the phrasing of the First Noble Truth. It is phrased in a very clear way: "There is suffering", rather than "I suffer". Psychologically, that reflection is a much more skilful way to put it. We tend to interpret our suffering as "I’m really suffering. I suffer a lot - and I don’t want to suffer." This is the way our thinking mind is conditioned. "I am suffering" always conveys the sense of "I am somebody who is suffering a lot. This suffering is mine; I’ve had a lot of suffering in my life." Then the whole process, the association with one’s self and one’s memory, takes off. You remember what happened when you were a baby...and so on. But note, we are not saying there is someone who has suffering. It is not personal suffering anymore when we see it as "There is suffering". It is ...

When we are going through a bad phase and are suffering, we often ask the question "why me?". I also asked the same question for Nancy when I heard that most likely she is going to have a miscarriage. I was so distressed and I kept asking as to why is it always have to be Nancy? We (myself,zina and nancy) were born in the same family but why is that Nancy has had to struggle for every small thing in life while I have had everything in a platter?!! And then I thought about Simi, who lost her children in Tsunami...she and her husband were escaping and had held their children very strongly but they couldn't hold them strong enough and lost both their children...what could be a bigger tragedy than this?? I still don't have the answer to my previous question but I do have a lot of gratitude for so many things that have worked out for me and for Zina and for Nancy. I also have a lot of prayers for Nancy and her new born daughter, who is fighting so many odds and is hanging ...

12 Signs of A Spiritual Awakening 1. An increased tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen. 2. Frequent attacks of smiling. 3. Feelings of being connected with others and nature. 4. Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation. 5. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experience. 6. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment. 7. A loss of ability to worry. 8. A loss of interest in conflict. 9. A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others. 10. A loss of interest in judging others. 11. A loss of interest in judging self. 12. Gaining the ability to love without expecting anything in return. – Author unknown

We went to a meditation retreat in Berkeley on Saturday. Zen master - Ven. Hyunoong Sunim was there for the Dharma talk. Amit and I really enjoyed what ever he said. Even though there were a few things which we could not understand or I should say "feel" but we loved the experience. Here are some of the things that he said or I should say that our interpretation of what he said. We could be completely wrong :-) - Acknowledge and accept the ever changing mind. Everything around is constantly changing and that includes our mind. The worry/sorrow/anger comes because we get attached to that mind and do not let it change. Acknowledge this change and let your mind change. As everything else it is also impermanent. - Remember that every one of our thoughts (the good, the bad and the downright ugghh) co-exist with our Buddha Nature. But "What is Buddha Nature?" Well, there is nothing that defines it....but the master gave a very good example - when a new born baby is hungry...

It was so heartening to read about this village today on BeTheCause blog ( http://www.bethecause.org/wordpress/index.php?p=87 ). yes, this was true sharing. It teaches us a lesson. Next time when we have to make a choice of sharing something with somebody let us try to remember this simple and profound act of sharing and just share (without prejudice, judgment, feeling of possessiveness or expectation). Here is an excerpt from the blog that is mentioned above - "It was great to hear the stories of sharing between all the villagers. For example, one village consisting of 106 houses was only approved by the government, based on damage assessment, to receive money for 81 houses out of 106. 81 houses received 4,000 rupees each as initial compensation . These villagers whose houses are no longer in living conditions, whose tvs, furniture, boats, clothes have been destroyed… who are now living in make do tents with tarp and plant materials.. do you know what they did?? The 81 houses poo...

Most of the time, we all are aware of our short comings and the negative shades of our characters (whether we confront it or not is another thing). These days I am trying to confront my short comings and my negative side. I once read in a book that to change something in yourself, you need to have compassion for yourself...you have to love yourself unconditionally ( i.e. even if you have been bad) because by being harsh on yourself, you waste your energy on lamenting and grieving. It really resonated with me and so I am practicing to be kind on myself and instead of lamenting on what I did not do, I am trying to see how I should do it differently the next time. But there are some habits/negative behavior that is very difficult to give up and so they keep coming back. The challenge then is to still have compassion for yourself and to keep trying with a conscience mind.Today while meditating I was thinking that may be if I concentrate on my negative behavior and focus on it then I might ...

Yesterday, we went to Madras Cafe for dinner and we met this young cool guy (or should I call him a kid!!?) who was asking for donation for the Sierra club. Since we had gone through a similar experience of asking for donation while collecting money for Ekjut 's last fundraiser, we were empathetic towards him and wanted to know his experience. It was 9:00PM and he had been out asking for money since 9:00AM. When we asked him about his experience, he answered without giving a second thought that if he is in a good mood he is able to convince people for the cause but if he is in a bad mood then that shows up in other people's response to his request. It was amazing to see the conviction with which he answered and his positive attitude touched us and obviously, we donated for the cause and came back home with a new lesson.